For anyone who has been a bride, you know that a lot more time, energy and planning goes into a wedding than you might have originally expected. From choosing between hydrangeas or peonies, to researching venue locations; from designing the wedding programs, to addressing all the invitations; every detail is carefully poured over and analyzed hours and hours. Another control aspect for a bride before her wedding? Weight.
If you have ever experienced the pressure of looking great for an event, one’s wedding may just be the most important moment of all. Here you are getting the opportunity to marry your best friend, your modern day Prince Charming, and celebrate it with all your family and friends. You get that one moment to truly be the center of attention and hey, you are only human, so I am sure you want to look your absolute best.
The pressure to be perfect though can cause a girl to crack. Long hours of work outs, calorie counting, beauty appointments can add to the stress you may already be feeling. Although I wouldn’t say I went on a ‘diet’ before my wedding, I definitely watched what I ate a little more by cutting back on desserts, and hit the gym 4-5 days a week as opposed to the 2-3 times a week I do now. My goal was to tone-up as opposed to lose weight and I tried hard to not let this tiny part of the wedding hold me back from being happy. There were moments when I definitely had tears, but this is when my fiancée would take me aside and remind me why he was marrying me. It wasn’t because I had six-pack abs (Lord knows this wasn’t true!), and it most definitely wasn’t for my discipline around chocolate (I can count on one hand the amount of times I have turned down chocolate). No, my soon-to-be husband wanted to marry me for my heart and for what was on the inside. Hard to imagine right? I guess it makes sense though since looks will fade over time, and what you are stuck with loving is one’s personality. So would he have rather married a super model who’s cold hearted, or an average girl who tries to be her best self. I like to think the latter.
So why do brides treat themselves unfairly and see themselves differently than their fiancée’s do? Why are women risking it all to be thin on their wedding day? I ran across this article yesterday and I couldn’t believe it.
First of all, what doctor would even agree to use a feeding tube to feed a normal woman just so she would be skinny? Second of all, how is 800 calories a day safe? I appreciate how the article says that whether you are eating 800 calories from a tube, or on a plate, someone is obviously going to lose weight. It’s about the calorie count, not some miracle tube feeding.
What else is sad? Think of the women who have to use a feeding tube for medical purposes. Do you think they agree with this mechanism? I am sure they would give anything to eat solid foods and enjoy the tastes of their favorite meals again. Anyone who reads that article and thinks it is normal, or thinks it is good, needs to go and speak with the women who don’t have the option of eating in this manner.
Leading up to your wedding, there are so many opportunities to taste food and create memories. Bridal Shower cupcakes, Bachelorette Party appetizers, Wedding Cake tasting, and Reception menu creation are not just moments to eat food, but are moments to remember.
If you are a bride, please remember the reason for the wedding: to celebrate love and not to be the skinniest you’ve ever been. Try not to lose sight of what’s important, because the wedding planning, wedding and honeymoon will be over before you know it and then you are left with the rest of your life. You are beautiful exactly how you are today, and I can guarantee that your boyfriend/fiancée/husband feels the exact same way.
If you were a bride, how did you feel about weight loss before the wedding? Did you have an exercise plan or meal plan that you followed?
What do you think of the article?
If you could give any advice to a bride-to-be, what would it be?